Can Friends Visit the Monastery?

     Here is an update to what I shared below ~ I answered the question out of my personal experience – my family and friends live close enough that my visits take place in the time span of a Sunday afternoon. For those whose families and friends are at a distance the visits might be longer and therefore worked out on an individual basis with our Mother Superior.


     Friends are certainly welcome to come during family visits and there are no limitations on our part regarding this arrangement. It would depend on the family and how much they are willing to share their precious time with you.


     As far as friends coming apart from a family visit this is not encouraged but exceptions are made, especially if it would never be possible for them to come with the family and they are traveling through the vicinity and would like to drop by for an hour or so. There is no hard and fast rule and various circumstances would have to be taken into account.

     Having limited contact with one’s friends is certainly one of the sacrificial aspects of monastic life but God only asks us to give up a “good” for a “greater good” ~ that more souls come to know Jesus and enter into a deeper relationship with Him.

     The Holy Trinity gives each woman who is called the strength and the desire to “leave all things” to follow Him…all the way to the Foot of the Cross with Mary.  This is first and foremost to be Laudem Gloriae – ” to be a praise of His glory” as Blessed Elizabeth of the Trinity would say. Overflowing from this self-gift are the graces of redemption that flow through the nun’s oblation upon the whole world.

     Before I entered the monastery I told the novice directress that I was afraid I would not be able to live this cloistered contemplative life…it’s so Radical! 

     She gave me some wise words…”If God is calling you to this life He will give you the grace to live it.”

     I am a living testimony to the truth of that statement.

     All is grace.  


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4 thoughts on “Can Friends Visit the Monastery?

  1. Dear Sister, the blog is coming along nicely! I am reminded of the wonderful retreat I had there a while back. I look forward too, God-willing, celebrating Mass there some day!

    Just a few things I noticed about the blog. It seems that the comment box, as it is being typed in, expands behind the column of boxes on the right of the screen.

    And sometimes these boxes are bumped down to the very bottom of the page.

    How are things coming on the technical aspects of the blog? Have you been able to get everything else worked out? I do notice that it is easy to read now!

    Also… I need to bug you all about obtaining a couple relics for two seminarian friends of mine. I’ll do that soon.

    In Jesu, per Mariam,
    Matt Hardesty
    Seminarian, Archdiocese of Louisville

  2. Hello to all. It was my little girl who asked the questions. I am working on a packet of information about vocations for her to share with all the kids at her little Catholic school and it will include this interview with a Passionist nun. Please pray for me as I put this together that it will be an effective presentation. But that is not why I comment now. I want to say that we should never worry about what we are “giving up” when God asks something of us, particularly the gift of a vocation. God wants to draw us closer to Him, no matter our station in life. Some are brought closer to God through marriage. Some are brought closer to God through religious life. Some have neither but are still brought closer to Him in other ways, like through great sufferings of the mind and body. When He asks something of you that seems difficult, it may be that He is actually sparing you great misery in this life. He is all-knowing and we are not, so how can we know what we may or may not be “giving up”? All is in His hands and our total trust in Him will be rewarded. A vocation is a gift from God. I think that anyone who messes around and trys to reject that gift is really in for some hard times! So, if my daughter or one of my other three children one day recognizes the gift of a vocation, I will rejoice. Even if it meant I would *never* see them again, I must trust that our highest calling is to know, love and serve God. Thanks, Sister, for your help!

  3. I agree that it is a great sacrifice to do without frequent or regular contact with our friends, but I do know that whosoever God calls, He will also enable. He is calling potential Passionists to “come out from among them and be separate.” I think that Sisters’ day is so full, that frequent contact with those outside the monastery would take time away from their first love, Jesus; which is why they entered the monastery in the first place. It would not be an easy road, but the graces would abound. My prayers are with all of you.
    In Jesus and Mary,

  4. I think your separateness from the world is a great witness. I know it must be a great sacrifice to forgo frequent or regular contact with friends, but the the result is so beautiful..
    God bless you!!

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